Sex With Emily

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating.  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace

I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time. Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them. In this episode, you'll learn:  • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste  • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood  • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the

What if the key to better sex wasn't about technique — it was about learning to feel your own body again? Taryn Toomey, founder of The Class, joined me live at Eudaimonia to break down how 13 years of somatic movement quietly rewired her relationship with pleasure, sound, and receiving — and why the two aren't as different as you'd think. From faking orgasms in her 20s to purring her way through her "delicious" 40s, Taryn gets raw about her two-year stretch of only receiving oral sex, falling deeply in love after divorce, and what it really means to let someone in — body and soul. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why the sounds you make in a workout and the sounds you make in bed come from the exact same place — and how unlocking one unlocks the other • How Taryn's two-year "oral sex only" era taught her more about receiving, boundaries, and her own body than any relationship ever did • The one breathwork tool that works both in The Class and

Whether you're trying to work up the nerve to ask out your office crush, figuring out what you actually want in bed, or navigating a decades-long relationship that's hit a sexual wall — the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: you have to be willing to go there. Say the thing. Ask the question. Have the conversation you've been putting off. In this episode, I'm taking listener calls on everything from the first nervous steps back into dating to the hard conversations that long-term couples are too scared to start. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why dating is a muscle — and what to actually do when you've been out of the game so long that even asking someone out feels impossible • What really happens to a vulva when a woman is fully aroused, why morning sex resentment is almost never just about morning sex, and what to do when your sexual awakening happens 20 years into a committed relationship • How to talk to your kids about sex early and often in a way that builds confidence instead o

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never bee

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health. In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age • The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never bee

If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem. In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way • The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts • How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options

If you've ever felt like everyone else is having the sex life you're supposed to have — and you're just white-knuckling your way through it, faking it, or coming up empty — you're not broken. You're just not talking about it yet. Whether it's a desire you've been too scared to voice, a fantasy you've kept to yourself for years, or a body that's never quite gotten there with a partner, the shift almost always starts the same way: someone finally said the thing out loud. In this episode, three real listeners share the moments that changed everything for them — and none of it looks the way you'd expect. In this episode, you'll learn: • What finally happened when one husband spent months asking his wife for something she wasn't sure about — and why one unexpected text message changed their relationship and sex life forever • How a 20-year marriage, a night out dancing, and a chance encounter with a stranger led to a first threesome that was hotter, messier, and more human than any fantasy • Why so many vul

If you've built a life that looks great from the outside but still feels like something's missing on the inside, the problem might not be your relationship — it might be how much of yourself you're actually bringing to it. Whether it's a body image spiral that shuts you down in the bedroom, a long-term dynamic that's gone quietly cold, or a fear of vulnerability that's been running the show since day one, the shift almost always starts with one honest conversation. In this episode, volleyball legend, entrepreneur, and mother of three Gabby Reece gets real about what it actually takes to keep desire, respect, and intimacy alive after decades together — and why most of us are working harder than we need to. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why the masculine and feminine dynamic has been completely misunderstood — and how redefining it can transform your relationship and your sex life • What Gabby and Laird's 48-hour rule actually looks like in practice, and whether a structure like that could work for you

If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it. In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past • What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have • How to ta

If the idea of FaceTime sex makes you want to immediately close your laptop and never speak of it again, I get it — but hear me out. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, traveling, or just looking to try something new with a partner you see every day, virtual sex is one of the most underrated tools for keeping intimacy alive. And when you do it right, it's genuinely hot. In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to know — from the practical setup to what to actually say — so it stops feeling awkward and starts feeling like real sex. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to actually set up, prepare, and get in the mood before the call — including the one thing you can do beforehand that builds confidence and arousal at the same time • What to say during FaceTime sex, even if dirty talk doesn't come naturally to you — plus how to use past memories, future fantasies, and simple direction to keep things moving • How to handle it when your partner's virtual kinks don't match yours

Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need. In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral. In this episode, you'll learn: • The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected • How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire • What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter

If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud. In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying. In this episode, you'll learn: • What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling • My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start) • What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a c

If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life. SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight • How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think) • The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get of

Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms. From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it • The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong) • Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first

After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted. From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong

Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex. In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms. We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating. Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  What you'll learn:  • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually wil

Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard. I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow). In this episode, you'll learn:  • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective  • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)  • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face More Dr. Emily: 

Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up. From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type." In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead  • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move  • What to

A Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags. From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire. In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14%  • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night  • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything